Cara Paiuk was attending an open house – a prerequisite – in preparation for her son’s entry into Aiken Elementary School in West Hartford, Connecticut when a question on the entry form took her by surprise.
She grabbed the form from her husband and said, “You can’t answer that question, it’s none of their business.”
I’ll have to admit, I agree! It IS none of their business, and to quote Hillary Clinton, “What difference does it make.”
Paiuk was a tad incensed with the pre-school’s question about her v-jay-jay, and can’t understand why they would want to know.
She was hesitant to speak UP at first, I mean, after all, the teachers were there, and who wants their kid branded as “the kid with THAT mom” before the first day of school?
Later that week, Paiuk called the school and spoke with a school nurse. The nurse said the school needed to know about birth traumas, you know, like the umbilical cord wrapped around the child’s neck or an emergency C-section, since down the road the child might have some “issues” at school, and this information would come in handy.
Paiuk called “BS”, but admitted that birth trauma can cause developmental delays. She added they could be from both vaginal or caesarian births.
She also pointed out that delays or disabilities should be diagnosed by a doctor and not a school administrator – which is true, BTW.
The nurse then referred the mom to the school’s “medical adviser” who said the form was 20 years old and Paiuk was the first person to raise a stink.
Really, no one’s paying attention people – explains a great deal, don’t you think?
Paiuk said, “Let’s say it was added 30 years ago, there weren’t that many C-sections then, so maybe it might have been indicative of a birth trauma,” Paiuk says. “You might have been able to justify the question 30 years ago. But now there’s such a higher rate of C-sections that it’s not immediately indicative of birth trauma or developmental delay. The fact that this has continued for all these years just tells me that people are blindly filling out forms these days.”
OK, so let me chime in on the 30 years ago thing. My daughter was a C-section, she’s 30, and guess what – she’s fine! And there was a lot less trauma for her during the birth. So, now, I’m not buying the 30 years ago crap…
It’s a stupid question, and an intrusive one at that!
And on top of that, in the years at BHS, I never heard one teacher look at a kid, shake her head, and say, “C-Section, no doubt about it!”
I’m quite sure it is not all that odd for schools to require information about incoming students and the questions asked on admission forms surely vary from school to school. But, type of birth, why?
Thomas Moore, the Superintendent of WHS says he intends to reevaluate all the forms for next year’s incoming class.
Good idea, Tom.