Who’s To Bless And Who’s To Blame?
Posted by PaulMar 2
I know, it’s a Kristofferson song…but…With one in her own place and one in college, I can no longer blame the mess in the house on the kids.
It’s sad really, they were so convenient.
I’ll admit, I did get some funny looks when I tried to blame a stack of half-read novels , a dishwasher full of clean dishes, and a sink full of dirty ones on a 5th and 1st grader, but most people let it slide.
But the mess is all on me now.
There’s the blogging mess.
Papers, notes, ideas, pictures to scan, computers, cords, cables, cameras…I’m sure you get the picture.
Then there’s the laundry mess.
My Mother does laundry every day. Me, once a week.
And the mail mess.
The one who doesn’t live here is easy, I just write the new address on it and forward it. But the one in college, well, I just wait for him to come home or call text.
And of course there’s the stack of “to be shredded” stuff…which seems to multiply everyday.
Then there’s the kitchen mess. I’ve taken to eschewing the pantry and just stacking the things I use regularly on the counter. It’s getting to me.
Serioulsy, who needs cabinet doors at this point?
And the bathroom counter mess, why put stuff away I’m going to use in another 24 hours.
And then there’s the yard. Wow, nature comes back fast!
But what to do, convenience is key with a busy lifestyle.
And how did I get so busy with no kids to bring up?
But we get that way.
Busy, unfocused, a little “sloppy”.
I’ll go with casual.
Yeah, that’s it…casual.
I suppose I’ll just have to blame it on me.

8 comments
Comment by Lori on March 2, 2010 at 5:30 am
When I was staying home with my first baby, my husband came home and asked me about the state of the house. I snapped back, “I’m a stay at home mom, not a stay at home maid.” It was then and there that the kiddos became my scapegoat for a messy house… and I, too, will miss the day I can blame it on them.
Comment by Mackenzie on March 2, 2010 at 7:41 am
Call my mom! I’m a 28 year old doctor and mommy and she still cleans my house. She’s terrified I’m going to send Molly to school in a dirty dog hair covered mess!
Comment by Diane on March 2, 2010 at 8:56 am
Do you remember when we were selling our first house and the realtor put an ad in the newspaper that said,”Mrs. Clean lives here”? EVERYONE who had ever been to my house got a good laugh out of that one!!
Comment by Aleta on March 2, 2010 at 1:12 pm
I’m a neat freak, but when I’m sick or in a bad mood, it reflects on the house. Don’t have children and it’s not likely that I can blame the cat and dog (though I’m shuffled some of the blame on my hubby).
“Casual” – I like that. Sort of like having a casual Friday dress at work and people thinking holes in jeans and cut off t-shirts are ok. Hehe
Comment by Charlie on March 2, 2010 at 1:45 pm
Clean enough to be healthy; dirty enought to be happy. Live by it. We do.
Comment by Jenny (your lovely niece) on March 2, 2010 at 4:25 pm
I was BORN casual! I like my dad’s comment!
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Comment by WomenCopingWell on September 9, 2010 at 4:03 pm
Lol! This post describes me, exactly!